FIRST SEXUAL EXPERIENCES: DRUNK AND PARTY FOR FIRST TIME
Many people say their first time was when they were drunk at a party or a dance. This happens so often because your usual inhibitions disappear. The best of intentions can be blown away in a matter of minutes by the influence of drugs and alcohol. All the self-talk and assertiveness in the world is not going to protect you if you drink so much alcohol, or do so many drugs, that your judgment goes out the window. The old story of waking up to a stranger in bed next to you who doesn’t look a bit like the person you thought you brought home can be a jarring reminder of the tricks alcohol can play on a brain.
It is very easy to be coerced into intercourse before you are ready if you don’t have a lot of self-confidence and if you are not willing to stick up for your rights. Some of the methods of coercion are more sophisticated than others. It’s hard to believe that old lines like, ‘I’ll tell everyone you’re frigid’ or ‘What’s wrong with you? All your friends do it!’ or “Why not, are you gay or something?’ can work, but they have stood the test of time. Parents would do well to prepare their children with a healthy dose of cynicism and a few clever retorts.
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